School’s back and things can now get back to “normal”. My children are in their 30’s (being a school mum was that long ago!) and I’m still caught in that space of “Now what?” Today my inner critic is loud, telling me now I’m supposed to suddenly kick into gear & success will be mine. Today my inner critic is loud – telling me what I should be doing before I can have that success or even before I can have fun. Today my inner critic is so loud I can even feel its patronizing pat on my head for being a good girl.
There’s a long list of things I can blame for this – my German background, being the eldest child, the good girl at school, the ex-husband who didn’t like it when I was doing something I enjoyed or whatever else it was back then, right now it is keeping me stuck. Right now I’m searching for the perfect answer, the right thing to do, the best way to say it. I’m filling my calendar with activities that serve others and I’m last on the list again. Why do I do that??? It’s as if putting me first means someone else will miss out and heaven forbid I’m a success, that’s even worse.
What a story! When I step out of the emotion I can see what a story it is. When I step out of the emotion I can see when I put me first I am happy and a success. When I put me first I have a reason to take action & make things happen. I am focused and that focus includes taking care of my responsibilities. My day has structure and I am super productive not because I have to be or because it’s expected of me or because it’s my duty. When I put me first I take action from a willing space, not a resentful one. And that makes the world of difference to what I do and how I do it.
It turns out that when I put myself first I am happy. I easily balance what I want to do with what I have to do, things flow smoothly and everyone is happy. Who’d’ve thought!
With the kids back at school are you asking “Now what?” Next week I’m running two vision board playshops – one on Friday 10 Feb at North Sydney for those who finally have school days available again, & the other on Saturday 11 Feb at Gladesville, if you’re in the Inner West area and can’t take a work day off during the week.
It’s a 2 for 1 package so bring a friend, create your 2017 vision (all materials & light lunch provided) and the $295 price includes a 1/2 hr coaching call to bring your vision to life. Book online here for the Friday playshop, or here for the Saturday playshop.